Failed foster!

[Moobli]

As others have said already, you have not failed at all.

Max simply didn't suit your circumstances, and Ted has to come first. Max will hopefully find a place either as an only dog or perhaps with a bitch, and I am sure you will find a wonderful foster dog that suits Ted's personality in the future .

[J&J]

As said it's not a failure so don't beat yourself up about it..

I think you'll be surprised about the positives in all this..

On your part

You know that Ted is willing to allow another dog onto his patch, as long as they behave themselves that is.. (no attempting coo's)

You know that Ted is a gentleman, too well mannered to slap an ill mannered guest, to worried to move due to he didn't want to cause a confrontation with Max, which would mean he have to slap him which would upset mummy..

So you know that if the right minded dog comes along you know it's possible to foster..

And Max

yes it's sad that it didn't work out, but the rescue will now have a lot better idea how he's going to respond to a new owner handling wise, and what sort dog would make a suitable companion if he's going to home with other dog/s..

I know not quite the outcome you wanted, but far from a failure you think it might be...

[kelpiemad]

Originally Posted by zetstaff

Just what I would have said Mazz xxx

GW you know what I think, as Mazz points out you've done more to help him than you think

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I agree it will help him to find his new home the more we know about the dogs the right home can be found sending you lots of hugs to shear with Ted you are a special person for trying to help xxxxx

[kelpiemad]

Originally Posted by J&J

As said it's not a failure so don't beat yourself up about it..

I think you'll be surprised about the positives in all this..

On your part

You know that Ted is willing to allow another dog onto his patch, as long as they behave themselves that is.. (no attempting coo's)

You know that Ted is a gentleman, too well mannered to slap an ill mannered guest, to worried to move due to he didn't want to cause a confrontation with Max, which would mean he have to slap him which would upset mummy..

So you know that if the right minded dog comes along you know it's possible to foster..

And Max

yes it's sad that it didn't work out, but the rescue will now have a lot better idea how he's going to respond to a new owner handling wise, and what sort dog would make a suitable companion if he's going to home with other dog/s..

I know not quite the outcome you wanted, but far from a failure you think it might be...

Very well said you have learned your boy is going to be one of those special dogs that allow dogs to share there life it just needs a dog without issues

[hippychickuk]

sending hugs. xx

[ArchandEbs]

Originally Posted by Stuart

In order to take on any dog a lot of upheaval has to happen in your home, and its not for everyone or for that matter every dog.

We have had a couple of dogs that have had to be seperated, put one lot out while the other is in, never mixing them, yet at the same time keeping them together [ with just bar between them].

It is very stressfull, I am sure that things would have come right in time, but the in between bit has to be run like a military machine,..and is not easy

You havent failed, if we could have sent back Nero in the early days we would have, the only reason we had to continue was because he didnt have anywhere else to go,.. you were able to return Max, and so reduce that stress for both dogs,,.and yourselves

I wouldnt stop thinking about fostering, there are many dogs out there that require your help

Stuart

I agree. Our Harry was 13 so no real issues with him. We had a great experience with Poppy. Nina has been more challenging as she is a very stubborn little girl, the puppies were challenging in another way. Addie had been the greatest challenge so far and we were her 3rd lot of carers. As you know we used a behaviourist as Addie had some nervous aggression issues and the rescue group weren't entirley open with us about her past history with the other two carers.

No-one would think badly of you for putting Ted first - but please don't let this put you off. There are lots of lower energy dogs out there needing help that would suit Ted.